I’ll take a good book (or movie) in a temperature-controlled environment over a jumpup in the hot sun any day. Even worse, since emerging from the depths of newborn-induced sleep deprivation, it would take quite a lot of convincing for me to willingly give up a night’s sleep for any reason.
So imagine my surprise when my daughter turned out to be a little Carnival baby... although, maybe I should’ve seen it coming. She was born in November, after all.
It all started with a little Soca. She’s always loved music (must have something to do with my having worked in a radio station throughout my pregnancy) but when Carnival 2015 started ramping up, she started ignoring everything else in favour of Soca with a strong bassline and melody. By the time her godmother invited us to join her at Kiddies Carnival, the verdict was in: She was more Trini than I.
Naturally, Boss Lady had a TIME. Between the music (her favourites), the costumes (amazing), the food (french fries) and the great outdoors, she was thrilled with the entire thing. While she was obviously enjoying herself, her godmother (a Carnival baby herself) was hatching plans for next year’s Kiddies Carnival, which will apparently feature Boss Lady in costume.
This is where the "it takes a village" thing comes in, because, while I find the idea of her playing in the toddlers section to be incredibly cute, the thought of organising a costume and all the attendant fuss fills me with preemptive fatigue. Luckily, her daddy’s on board, so it will be up to him and her loving godmother to orchestrate the entire thing. Godmommy will, of course, have the honour of walking her across the stage and I know my place: In the stands, smartphone in hand, proudly documenting every moment.
That’s the thing about parenting that I didn’t fully understand until I embarked on this endeavour. We all want to give our children the very best and expose them to everything life has to offer. However, it’s unrealistic to expect that we can do this on our own. I, a classic Type-A control freak, have learned to let go (somewhat) and outsource some of my daughter’s enrichment to those better suited to handle certain aspects.
Boss Lady won’t necessarily experience everything that will help her grow into a well-rounded young woman through me, but she has an army of people around who are eager to share their passions. That’s not to say that I’m not willing to branch out and explore new things with her; quite the contrary. I’m just willing to let someone else take the lead, for a change.
After all, it takes a village.
Who's in your child's village? Which activities are just for you and your little one?